Frankly, it’s not always about experience.
A few weeks ago I took a quiz called the BDSM Test.
“The BDSM Test is a fun and educational test to determine what kind of kinkster you are. “
I was curious what sort of results I’d get considering I write romantic erotica and romance for a living. I write all sorts of relationship dynamics and with so many titles under my belt, I wondered, do I have a kinky streak I never considered?
My results were as I would expect, 100% vanilla.
It made me think that the advice “write what you know” is not all it’s cracked up to be. Writing what I actually know would result in 100% vanilla stories. I’ve been in a 20+ year monogamous relationship!